Prior to this blog series<\/a> on language acquisition and gender, I haven\u2019t written a blog for a whole year. The last one was titled My Gender Work Was Stolen in the Children\u2019s Book Industry<\/a><\/em>. In it I primarily focused on the facts related to two books: one was a workbook that consciously lifted my gender work, and another was a children\u2019s book that co-opted and distorted my Gender Wheel.<\/p>\n Matthew and I recently saw that the name of the co-opted wheel has been changed to the Interactive Wheel as the publisher said it would be. But it is still the same shape. \u00a0It also has the same language that we told both the author and her press was problematic, and why. We were ignored.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m glad this book and its language are no longer directly connected to The Gender Wheel, but it\u2019s message continues to haunt me.<\/p>\n Especially, since this book is sometimes paired with our pronoun book and it\u2019s been on lists in the children\u2019s book industry, validating and uplifting its message.<\/p>\n I generally don\u2019t speak to the problematic content in the workbook that columbused my work, but because I work in the children\u2019s book industry, I have referenced issues in the children\u2019s book in my gender presentations (usually without title).<\/p>\n But in February of this year I did something I hadn\u2019t done before. I shared a brief post on a public media platform about what I consider to be one of the most damaging messages in Who Are You? The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity. Sadly it\u2019s on the co\u2014opted Wheel in the back of the book. Far more than the plagiarism, this is what broke me and Matthew\u2019s hearts and enraged us.<\/strong> It can still be emotional to talk about, but I was told the information was helpful so I\u2019m providing it for easier reference.<\/p>\n Matthew and I did a full documentation of the cissexism embedded in the language of both books. This gave us a greater understanding of what was going on and the ability to speak about it. It\u2019s been a lot to digest, but I want to take a moment to make something clear.<\/p>\n This is not about books having to be perfect.<\/strong> Everyone is learning all the time. I know I am. And it\u2019s not about just this book, or the two of them. It\u2019s much, much bigger than that. Certainly bigger than me and my feelings.<\/p>\n This is about patterns and dynamics of power embedded in everything, particularly how we speak, the actions we take and how this contributes to maintaining oppressive systems.<\/p>\n I\u2019m only going to address the pull out \u2018Interactive Wheel\u2019 in the back of <\/p>\n Who Are You? The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity<\/em><\/u>,<\/p>\n and only one sentence on one of the three concentric circles. <\/p>\n This problematic sentence is reflective of the rest of the book.<\/strong> The center circle that is referring to the body says, \u201cI have…\u201d<\/strong> with three choices, “a body that made adults guess<\/em> ‘girl’ ; “a body that made adults guess<\/em> ‘boy’ ; or “a body that made adults say<\/em> ‘not sure.'”<\/strong><\/p>\n Since we’ve explored the importance of language in the last 2 posts<\/a>, I want to slow this down to really look at what is being communicated. <\/p>\n \u201cI have a body that made<\/u> adults\u2026\u201d <\/strong> Here a child claims for their self that their body made<\/u> adults act, taking all the responsibility and placing it on their body for action upon it. <\/p>\n The sole responsibility for action on their body is their body. This leaves no option to question or consent to action on their body, especially in relation to someone with greater power, like an adult. <\/p>\n This dynamic is impacted by the fact that gender assignments are attached to sex assignments. There is now a message that says everything happening to them is their own fault, because of their body. This is how oppression becomes internalized.<\/strong> <\/p>\n This is a common set up for women, femmes, trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, and queer people to be harmed. \u201cYou\u2019re body made me do it.\u201d<\/em> This is profoundly compounded by racism.<\/div>\n The other part of the phrase,<\/p>\n “guess<\/u> ‘boy’ or ‘girl'”<\/em><\/strong> This can further isolate and disorient the child by removing responsibility or context of the oppressive system and the reality of how sex and gender are assigned<\/u>, not assumed, in our current culture.<\/p>\n By extension, it erases the history of gender oppression and the colonization of the indigenous Americas and Two Spirit people.<\/p><\/div>\n So with this one sentence that a child is encouraged to say, “I have a body that made adults guess…”<\/em>, all responsiblity is placed on their body and any other responsibility and context is removed. This effectively puts the full onus on the child for their own oppression.<\/strong> <\/p>\n Internalized oppression like body shame and blame must be negotiated by many adults from LBTQI2S+ communities, privately and out in the world, especially for those who are Indigenous or POC. That\u2019s why our annual celebrations are called PRIDE! It takes a simple word to cut through a dense, oppressive cultural fog.<\/p>\n Even for those of us who are a part of the community, it can be challenging to understand the extent by which the dominant systems oppress us, especially with something as common and necessary as language.<\/strong> It takes work to say what you mean with a language shaped by the oppression of women, femmes and LGBTQI2S+ people.<\/p>\n I find it difficult to understand what the author of Who Are You? The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity<\/em> was consciously trying to teach with her Interactive Wheel and children\u2019s book when these messages are embedded in her work. <\/p>\n For me, my experience with this book has stressed the power of language, the importance of lived experience and why it\u2019s where we must begin to create real change and equity.<\/p>\n This is our opportunity to finally take the onus off our kids & the larger LGBTQI2S+ community and put in on the system where it belongs.<\/p>\n Language is where we can create real change and equity.<\/strong><\/p>\n There\u2019s no time to waste.<\/p>\n We must heal the song we sing to our children.<\/p>\n (Missed the first two parts? View the full 3 part series here<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n An example of why it’s so important to understand the power of language and how we use it, especially in books for children. For context, see the previous two posts, Part 1 and Part 2. 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Maya Gonzalez<\/a> is a Chicanx, queer femme artist, progressive educator and award-winning children’s book illustrator and author. Her work addresses systemic inequity in relation to race\/ethnicity, sexism and cissexism using children\u2019s books as radical agents of change and healing, both personally and culturally. With her partner Matthew, she co-founded Reflection Press, a POC, queer and trans owned independent publishing house that uses holistic, nature-based, and anti-oppression frameworks in their books and materials for kids and grown-ups. She is also the creator of the Gender Wheel, a tool to express the dynamic, infinite and inclusive reality of gender, and provides lectures and workshops to educators, parents and caregivers. www.mayagonzalez.com<\/a> | www.genderwheel.com<\/a> | www.reflectionpress.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"